55 positive-focus questions for couples

Relationship cards for intimate conversations

• The cards help you get closer to each other

• They help strengthen the sense of security and attachment

• They support turning towards each other

The 55 positive-focus questions for couples cards help you get closer to each other by answering the questions. The questions explore the values and realizations of your relationship – or, if you like, its 'anchors' – that hold you together on both good and harder days.

These questions are a kind of ticket into each other's inner world, helping you tune in to each other more easily. They help you turn towards each other, give space to listen to each other, and help you become aware of what works well, what the other needs, what's important to you and in which direction you'd like to grow further.

Couples who have meaningful, deep conversations are happier and more likely to stay together in the long term.

What does science say?

The latest research confirms that couples talk to each other astonishingly little. Most couples would like to spend more time in meaningful conversations. One of the best solutions for this is having dinner together. Mealtimes are perfect occasions to sit down and spend quality time together. However, research also highlights that, beyond the day's events, it's important to remind each other from time to time of the positive values and anchors of the relationship, as this helps deepen or reaffirm trust.

Tips on how to use the card deck:

Use the cards however feels right, however they best fit into your life.

You might answer one question a day and decide to keep a positive-focus ritual for a month, with the questions leading you forward.

Or, after a nice dinner or an anniversary, you might set aside an hour to talk about the values and anchors of your relationship with the help of the cards.

But any other approach can be perfect too – the main thing is that these cards help bring to the surface the topics every couple should talk about from time to time. E.g. 'What would you like me to tell you more often?' or 'How do you feel that I love you?'.

Add comments that strengthen emotional connection!

After your partner has answered a question, summarize in your own words what you heard. It doesn't matter if it's not completely accurate. That's not the point. If you respond attentively and with understanding to your partner's feelings and thoughts, you encourage them to open up even more.

Product details:

55 cards
Card size: 63×88 mm